Gil,
Gelcoat can be painted but doesn't need primer. Just rough it up and make sure it is clean from release agents. The best and recommended paint for gelcoat is a catalysed acrylic urethane, single stage paint. I get mine from PPG and the finish is great. I did the entire bottom of a 28 foot boat with it 2 years ago. I am working on that boat again right now but not from paint problems. He keeps beaching the boat and screwing up his hull bottom. Even after 2 years if you weren't told it was paint, you wouldn't be able to tell. The PPG stuff is great.
Douglas,
If you are going to paint the surface, I would still gelcoat it or put a coating of good resin down and let it cure before any layup. The resins and products Nathan mentioned will work but you can also get some from distributors of composites materials that are a much higher grade. The main purposes of gelcoat are to protect the fiberglass as it is a much higher grade of resin, and for cosmetic appeal. Having fiberglass too close to the surface will ware it down and expose the fibers to the elements. Yes, even air is an element and will cause problems eventually. Water is the real problem. No other chemical on earth can do the damage to anything or corrode everything like water can.
The Cab-O-Sil is an interesting approach. You must make sure, if you use this process, that it is mixed very well. Resin without the reinforcement of fiberglass is very week, especially for polyesters. It needs reinforcement. The term for fiberglass is FRP (fiber reinforced polymers/plastics). It includes all reinforced plastics, like carbons and Kevlar. Polyester has the lowest elongation of all resins, although you can upgrade to Isophthalic Resin (also a polyester) which is a tougher resin. When working with Cab-O-Sil, don't breath it. It's only purpose is for making paste like applications not for strength. If not done with attention, it will also trap air easily and that weakens the resin. If not done smoothly it will cause problems laying up against unlike a smooth coat of something that was sprayed first.
Now all of what I have said is for industrial applications, but for all of it, it is fundamental to all areas of applications, even hobbies.
Brett